Frankfort family shares kindness after tragedy

Elaina Mammen
Posted at 11:02 PM, Jan 04, 2023
and last updated 2023-01-05 06:37:05-05

FRANKFORT, Ky. (LEX 18) — A Frankfort family wants people to share a random act of kindness Thursday in honor of Elaina Mammen, who was shot and killed in Lexington in December.

"I remember screaming and crying and I — still wake up wishing it wasn't real and the agony of realizing it is real," she says. "I wish it would have been me. I raised my girls... should have been me, not her."

Mammen remembers her daughter for what she did for others.

"She loved nature and she had a heart of gold. She gave love out like it was an endless stream of water," she says.

It's a love that Heather and her twin sister Ruthie are now trying to share. They know that they'll go to a restaurant tomorrow and pay for everyone's desserts. It's the day that would have been Elaina's 20th birthday.

It's a project they're calling "Go Light Your World".

"It doesn't have to be about money, it can just be praying with someone or giving them a smile when they are sad. It's a way we can honor her and spread that unconditional love to those around us that so desperately need it," says Ruthie.

The Mammen's ask to email them at with ways that you share kindness on Thursday.

Mammen's death marked the city’s 43rd homicide of 2022.